(contributed by Linda Anegawa, MD, FACP)
Have you ever struggled to say “NO” at family gatherings and other social events, when you’re offered food that you know is not good for you?
It’s a fact that even when loved ones know you’re trying to lose weight and get healthier, we often feel pressured to make a bad choice, have seconds, or eat dessert. This doesn’t necessarily mean that others want to sabotage you or ruin your success – it can just be history, culture, and a habit of food being a gift to share with those you love.
Here are some things you can say at social gatherings to stay on track with your wellness goals, when you’re offered something you don’t want to eat:
“I sure wish I could have some! But I’m so full, from all the other delicious food right now. Maybe a little later.”
“Thanks, I’ll pass and just keep you company while you enjoy!”
“No, thank you” (firmly, without explanation at all).
When offered seconds: “No, thank you, it was delicious. Can I have the recipe?”
“No thanks. Hey, how are your kids doing – I haven’t seen them lately!” (diversion tactic!)
“You know, I realized that my stomach doesn’t feel good when I eat _____, so now I try to avoid feeling like that.”
“I have _____ (high cholesterol, prediabetes, etc.) so I’m making changes in what I eat to improve my health.”
“My doctor told me I can’t eat that, but it smells amazing!”
If you feel a need to explain, or are pushed further, you can say “Sorry, that just doesn’t agree with me” or “Sorry, I need to choose what I eat more carefully for my health.”